You're both totally obsessed with your savings accounts. These are the top things that break people up, she says, which is why a solid friendship can sometimes be the best precursor to love—you already have that foundation of similarities and shared values.
Regardless of how much money either of you actually have in the bank, having similar values on savings, spending, family, and other lifestyle goals is so important, says Terri Orbuch, Ph. MORE: How to Tell If It's Love (or Lust) at First Sight You let him dog sit when you're out of town.
Whether you've always had a crush on them or you’re just starting to realize they’re a catch, feeling excitement and desire is a big part of what being in love is all about, says Greer.
So, why is she (or both of you) only giving subtle hints?
Contrary to popular belief, platonic friendships between men and women exist.
During my semester abroad in college, I went on a trip to Rome with my best guy friend, and I can guarantee you neither of us felt a spark or tried to make "love" happen, even when we were admiring the Colosseum together or eating spaghetti and drinking wine under the dim lights of romantic outdoor restaurants. If you're in the category of male/female friendship in which something more could definitely be on the horizon, know that taking that leap of faith could be the best decision you'll ever make.
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It might mean that he’s just not in that stage of his life yet where he’s ready to commit, or he hasn't found a woman he wants to commit to.We need to hear affirmation in relationships so that we feel special, noticed, and cared for, says Orbuch.However this doesn't necessarily mean that he wants to leave the friend zone, says Orbuch.On the other hand, if you're constantly thinking, "How could he be such a flake after sleeping with a girl?" or he always says that you jump into things too quickly; you're probably not on the same page.
And if you find yourself giving off your usual flirting signals—playing with your hair around her or touching her arm—your body might be trying to tell you something too, says Orbuch.